I’m pretty sure I’m a grown-up now. It’s hard to know for sure. When I was a child, I knew that my parents were grown-ups. I knew that for sure. When I was a teen, my teachers were grown-ups. When I was in college, my professors were certainly grown-ups. After that, things got blurry. I became teacher, but I hardly felt grown-up. In fact, just four months into teaching, I was trying to figure out what I wanted to do when I grew up, as…Continue Reading “Are you A Grown-Up?”

I need help.  I feel like I no longer recognize myself.  I have become MOM.  The role transforms you.  All the body changes make you no longer recognize yourself, and the lifestyle changes make you no longer recognize your life.  I need to draw a line in the sand (or in the pile of laundry and toys) and decide who I am again.  I want a wardrobe of clothing that I love, not just stuff that fits my body okay and happened to be cheap and…Continue Reading “Help Mama Get Her Edge Back”

peep hole

We have been living in our apartment for three months now.  Three very long months of being terrorized daily by the former tenants.  But despite their status as former tenants, they have been living here too.  THEY NEVER LEFT.  I wake up in the morning and they are in my bathroom, just hanging out by the sink all like, “Yo! Where’s breakfast?” In the kitchen, they use my sugar without asking, even when I hide it.  Though that seems to be the only thing they…Continue Reading “The Tenants–A True Nightmare”

oliver beg

I think they were able to smell my desperation. I was at a playground letting the kiddo play while I tried to gather my thoughts about what to do with my time out here in Singapore.  There were a couple moms there with little ones younger than the kiddo.  I was not really open to meeting anyone, as I was still mourning my friendships back home that were going on without me. You feel sort of like you are cheating on your old friends when you…Continue Reading “Making Friends as an Adult, part 3”

minions still

August 2011.  I met 2 ladies at a hospital group for new moms, and thought we could never be close. June 2012.  I met two ladies at a park and immediately assumed they would not like me.  I was sure we would not be close friends. Later in June 2012.  I met 4 ladies at a sushi bar and immediately new I could never get along with one of them; we were just too different. *** The above describes how I met my current closest…Continue Reading “Making Friends as an Adult, part 2”

Santas

Originally written Dec. 7, 2013. So I totally botched my first chance to make a friend tonight. We’ve been in Singapore for 3 days now and are starting to feel a little at home. I’ve made a couple dinners, we’ve gone out to do errands, and the kiddo’s nap schedule is on track. So I was totally starting to feel like I had things under control. Then comes the hotel Christmas party. I think, sure, sounds fun, lets go (even though the kiddo and I were…Continue Reading “Making Friends as an Adult, part 1”